We are what people see us as

Charles Horton Cooley in his concept of the looking glass self describes how we,humans, tend to derive our essence, our personality from those around us. He explains this as, ‘There is no self without society, no “I” without a corresponding “they” to provide our self image.’ We look at how other people perceive us, and judge ourselves accordingly.
Now is that right? I mean people don’t know us fully, they only see what we show them. Then they judge us based on how we treat them, selfishly without any consideration to the bigger picture. But then again, technically how we react to people is who we are, even if we are faking it, is still ‘us’, under our conscious control.
It’s a twisting concept…..Cooley basically explains how we wouldn’t have personalities without society. That there’d be no self,we wouldn’t have proper emotions or coherant thoughts …………. Thats a big hole in the Tarzan story. 😛 Sorry that was random. I guess it is Disney so anything is possible. Disney’s awesome. 😀 …………Ok back to the topic.
So basically no matter how much we try to not let people affect us, they do. They’re the ones who tell us who we are, but what we choose to do with that image is up to us. If people view us as stupid, it’s up to us whether to let that be true and do nothing, or try to change that about ourself. That way we influence their views, and hence our views, so we have some control over it! Yes! Thats somewhat comforting……But technically our attitude to peoples views also depends upon how we saw people tackle similar situations. So the people also influence our reactions to their thoughts.
Confusing stuff…….very twisted. Everyone we know, knew or will know….. they all have an impact on us.

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  1. Are we really what people see us as?
    Very beautiful and thought provoking post. I’m really wondering how I’m not following your blog, I thought I had followed ages back! Meanwhile, we are what we think that people see us as. You see, very often, we make assumptions that are not real and those assumptions become our reality.
    We often try to present ourselves in a way that we feel would match other people’s ideals, whereas, we assume their ideals.
    People who live up to their own standards, completely without the consideration of peoples opinions about them are rare, but those are the real people.
    If I truly love someone, and not just act as if I love that person, I would be willing and able to go to any extent to ensure the best for that person. But if I’m pretending, I’ll get fed up in the face of challenges.
    I’m glad I found your blog again, I’ll correct my mistakes, permanently! 🙂

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    1. Thanks for the compliment 🙂

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      1. You are welcome! 🙂

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